7 Reasons Why I Don’t Like Eharmony
After a few months of using Eharmony, I’ve discovered there are several issues I have with the dating site. The main reason I don’t like Eharmony is because of the cost and the fact I have no control over searching for women.
In a previous blog post I discussed 10 Reasons Why I Hate Tinder and compared to Tinder, Eharmony isn’t necessarily a bad site. Before you choose to dive in and join Eharmony I’ve created a list of 7 of the main reasons I don’t like Eharmony which you should read.
1. Eharmony has a longer setup time.
When you signup for Eharmony you’ll notice the initial setup process is very similar to other dating sites. You’ll have load photos, write about yourself, share if you want kids, your education level and other similar things about yourself.
Fair enough. Eharmony expects you to be honest when you assess yourself however you slog through these questions and transition to questions like this:
Seriously? My interest in shopping? Not all questions are like this, but I want to see proof these questions matter. I answered these honestly and didn’t meet a lot of women who I considered good matches. In fact, I fared better meeting women who matched up with me on other dating sites like OkCupid and Tinder where I didn’t have to answer tons of questions like these.
So, either these questions don’t matter, women didn’t answer these questions honestly, or maybe I saw myself through rose-colored glasses when answering these and wasn’t aware I wasn’t honest about myself.
2. Eharmony gives you a daily “matches” limit.
Eharmony limits how many women you can contact each day. Once you scroll through your daily matches you’ll see a screen like this:
Eharmony wants to limit how many matches you can have to help you “focus” on each one. Restricting how many women I can match with is stupid. What if I don’t like whom I’m matched up with?
I don’t like restrictions on the number of women I can search for, but that’s how Eharmony handles it. If you don’t like anyone who they match you with on a given day, you’re out of luck! You have to wait for the next day to see other matches.
3. You can’t search for women on Eharmony.
Eharmony doesn’t allow you to search for other members; it’s in control of who you can contact through your daily matches. You rely on Eharmony to match you correctly with women.
The only way to control who Eharmony matches you with is to change one of the settings below which Eharmony uses to match you with women.
I don’t like how I’m on a paid dating site, and I have zero control for seeking the type of women I want to meet. I guess I’m supposed to trust Ehaarmony’s matching algorithm.
4. Eharmony has lame icebreakers.
Another reason I don’t like Eharmony is whenever I message someone I always get this stupid generic question I can send to women:
This Icebreaker popup is annoying as hell. I can’t turn it off either. No, I don’t want your stupid generic message because they don’t work. Nothing screams “I have nothing to say” and “I have zero confidence” to women more than using this feature.
5. Eharmony is expensive to use.
I don’t like Eharmony because it’s expensive. You have to sign up for 3 months which you can see below.
3 months is a considerable commitment to a paid dating site if you’re testing it out. Now, I did find some discounts on Retailmetnot but still, the fact I have to sign up for 3 months minimum is a joke.
I’d prefer to be able to try Eharmony for a free trial period or a month at the most before deciding to continue to use its services.
6. Eharmony has some useless features
I have no idea why you would want to use this feature, but that’s me. My problem with Eharmony is that I am no doubt charged for this useless feature. If people use it that’s fine but hey, how about reducing my cost if I choose NOT to use this feature?
7. You have no ability to focus on physical traits.
The last reason I dislike Eharmony is that I can’t filter women based on my physical preferences in a partner. We all have our preferences; maybe you only date blondes, or perhaps you want a woman who has curves. Perhaps you don’t want to date someone who is overweight or taller than you. These are examples you can’t filter on in Eharmony while other dating sites let you.
Eharmony doesn’t let you include or exclude the physical traits of your ideal partner. Don’t give me this “looks fade” and “you’re shallow” nonsense. Look, if I spend money on a dating site, I should be allowed to search for things I want. Just saying.
Bonus: What’s the point of this feature?
Earlier I discussed how Eharmony charges you for useless features, but I saw this popup while on Eharmopn’ys app and wanted to know why on earth someone would use it.
This feature is called Incognito. Eharmony allows you to browse profiles in a “hidden” mode. You won’t show up in people’s activity feeds when looking at their profile. Useless.
Thankfully, you have to pay extra to use it which means it’s not tacked onto your cost. However, this gives me a stalker vibe where you can look at profiles and not have them look back at you. I’m guessing it’s for women who have to deal with creepy guys otherwise what’s the point.